Earlier today, I wrote about Twin Flame without really explaining what Twin Flames actually are. I will be quoting this from Isisjade as I feel they have written it in a very understandable form. They also have other articles concerning Twin Flames.
The twin soul/twin flame is a split energetic form that separates into yin and yang versions of itself. That yin/yang version spends many lifetimes looking for and discovering aspects of itself through connections with countless soulmates. Soulmates are soul contracts we enter into prior to incarnation – they are often people who have lessons to teach us, often painful lessons, along with karmic debt we must repay. When that debt has been repaid – the relationship and contract comes to an end. At that time so do our relationships. And it is time for the next one to unfold.
Often you meet your twin flame just as you are about to end a soul contract with another. In fact, it almost always happens at about that time. And for a time, you’ll find yourself struggling for awhile between upholding a dead contract and evolving yourself to embody the twin flame that is asking for you to journey with them.
Your twin flame – your twin soul – this is the heart that beats as one that has been split in two. These twins match each other in energetic resonance, match each other’s ambition, motivation, drive and recognize each other in a split second, even if they can’t name what they recognize about the other. Their energy diminishes when not together, and when together they expand and energize not just the room but their entire corner of the universe. They heal each other, they evolve one another, they take each other’s lessons as their own. They are dynamic. They recognize their one-ness. They feed off one another and nourish one another.
The twin flame doesn’t fear the other in an energetic sense. There is an instant recognition of familiarity and mutual trust. There is no sense of jealousy or hate, nor fear with this person. It’s an innate and instant feeling of “at last I’ve found you”. As if you will ever be watched over and looked after now that you’ve found the other. Even if you are not together as you wish you could be, you are happy for the now, just to be connected and reunited again, and often very impatient to transform the world so you can be together. Often times you are split up throughout the course of your life and you find your resolve to reconnect is tested again and again. But you will eventually find the step that is in tune with the other.
The twin flame – twin soul isn’t just a sexual or romantic entanglement like so many people will have you believe. It goes much deeper than that. Every minute spent with that person is a minute where you learn more about yourself. Time stops when you are with them. You don’t have to speak to be together. You simply talk without verbal language. In fact everything stops when you set eyes upon each other, until you decide to resume the physical world again.
Your limits, your strengths, your weaknesses are perfectly reflected in that other person. That person reflects everything that the universe believes of you – to you. They only ask you questions in an attempt to embolden you, to teach you, to mentor you to guide you or to seek your wisdom and strength. You may find they’ve suffered from a mysterious back pain from the day you had a serious accident. You may discover she’s had a mysterious allergy and find you have had a weakness or intolerance to a food. You find yourself ill when she’s ill, tired when he’s tired.
You are strong where she is weak. You are limited where she seems boundless. You see in her the pure unconditional love that reaches for you daily, that spurs you on to grow, to challenge yourself, to deepen yourself, to better yourself, and you have this unfettered desire to help her better herself, to challenge her, to reach for her, to help her grow.
This is true love. Not the paradigm of love we have longed believed in. This love is eternal, Unconditional. All encompassing. Not raging, not consuming, not filled with a passion that quickly turns to anger or fear.
It is a pure love that only hopes and wishes for the best for the other in all they do. With you, or without you. Because once the connection has been made between twin flames, nothing can sever it.
Remember, the twin flame relationship doesn’t have anything to do with male/female traditional relationships. Your twin flame can choose to incarnate in any sexual entity she or he wishes. That’s part of the openness about twin flames. You accept each other for the pure and perfect being you see in the other.
After today’s research, I’ve found out that more often than not there is a certain pattern that Twin Flames might follow.
Stage 1: Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening
Characteristics of Stage 1:
Both Twins recognize one another at the soul level and feel as if they have met before. Synchronious events surround the union. The heart chakras open and both souls quickly merge into a third unified energy. Both Twins experience an acceleration of spiritual understanding.
The purpose of the Recognition and Temporary Spiritual Awakening Stage:
To activate the memory of each soul’s life mission and to help awaken each Twin to higher levels of consciousness.
Stage 2: Testing
Characteristics of Stage 2:
The initial temporary spiritual awakening (illumination) fades. The ego (“little self”) begins to re-emerge. One or both Twins may attempt to fit the relationship into the “old model” of Love, couplehood and relationship as it relates to their ego desires and learned belief system. Inner conflict arises. Twins ruminate on what they were taught to believe their beloved “should be” and how relationships are supposed to serve them.
Both Twins feel simultaneously inspired and toppled by the power of the union.
Doubts creep in making one or both Twins begin to view their beloved critically or suspiciously.
The purpose of the Testing stage:
To cause outdated mental concepts about relationships to rise to the surface to be cleared.
Stage 3: Crisis
Characteristics of Stage 3:
The crisis of the Twin is realizing they must reject their egoic beliefs about Love relationships or reject their beloved. Having to shed “little self” or identity-based beliefs and desires to embrace a higher expression of Love can lead to stubbornness and anxiety. Fear can take hold, triggering many dysfunctional emotional patterns. In staying present with the patterns, they can be witnessed and released.
Despite fears, both Twins naturally come together in cycles for bonding, confession, forgiveness and Lovemaking. These rituals cement higher levels of consciousness into the energy fields of both Twins.
The purpose of the Crisis stage:
To provide opportunities for the healing and maturing of the mental and emotional bodies.
Stage 4: The Runner Dynamic
Characteristics of Stage 4:
The human ego naturally fears annihilation in the face of the Unified Consciousness encoded inside the Twin Flame Union. The pain body rises up and old ego survival mechanisms or “bottom of the barrel” emotional and mental patterns like defiance, resistance, manipulation, anger, punishing and judgment arise.
One or both Twins become emotionally and mentally flooded with deep pain from what feels like soul-level rejection and abandonment. The unbearable soul-level pain leads one or both Twins to withdraw physically and block communication in fear and futility. One or both Twins may unsuccessfully try to re-create the original unified harmony.
The purpose of the Runner Dynamic:
To propel both individuals towards the Creator/God/Universe for healing and maturation of the spiritual body.
NOTE: The temptation to engage in ego battle or withdrawal is very seductive and difficult for many to resist, which is why many Twins never reach Surrender, Radiance or Harmony.
Remember, there is no room for judgment in Twin Soul pairings. Each soul learns from much walking its own path and choosing through its own will. Your non-attached loving thoughts will be felt by your beloved in the subconscious, keeping them strong.
Stage 5: Surrender
Characteristics of Stage 5:
The direction and outcome of the relationship is surrendered to the Creator/God/Universe in full faith and trust that the Union is under Divine Protection. It is accepted that what is best and destined for the final physical harmonizing will transpire in its own time. (Both Twins must reach Illumination in order to harmonize in the physical)
The “Runner” Twin is allowed the space and freedom to choose to evolve at their own pace in their own way. At this stage, the frequency of compassion returns and maintains itself. The Surrendered Twin holds a heart space for their beloved while fully exploring life on the way to becoming an Illuminated human. This may be a time of channeling Unconditional Love into art, music, writing, teaching, active service or some other creative outlet.
Purpose of the Surrender stage:
To help each soul release the ego, develop regular communication with the Creator/God/Universe and demonstrate their full trust to do what is best and when.
Stage 6: Self Realization, Illumination, Radiance
Characteristics of Stage 6:
The ego or “little self” dies and the Universal energy takes over the body. This leads to a complete spiritual awakening, arriving at one’s fully awakened divinity. This is the stage of radiating Divine Love rather than seeking romantic Love.